Sunday, 14 November 2021

Happy Children's Day!

 



When did we turn from kids to adults?

Honestly, I didn't mind being a kid. Now we read quotes "Never look back in your life" but how we all loved to sit backwards on a scooter and see the other vehicles go by, that excitement!

We knew it better then that tears and smiles are to be seen and not hidden. Without having any second thoughts we would tell our families and friends every detail of our day. 

Today I have my own vehicle but my favorite memory has to be when all four of my family members would sit on the Bajaj Classic scooter and roam around the town. Oh boy! and how we all would share a bedroom and fit on one double bed.

I loved Sundays too. Watching DDLJ, K3G, Hum Aapke Hai Kaun on TV with Aai, Pappa and Didi  was way better than binge watching random web series and movies on phones that too alone. You know even POGO was better than Disney.

This Children's Day I feel like an adult and no more a child. When did this transition happen? I don't know! But I do know we all have to grow up that doesn't mean sharing your chocolates with kids tho!

Happy Children's Day to newly turned adults! 💝

Friday, 17 September 2021

Coping Mechanism?

 How we often let our emotions get in the way of things. Subconsciously at some point how we wish to feel numb, no emotions and no thoughts, just our conscious and us! 

Some of us indulge in alcohol, substances, drugs, violence and what not. Then there are some of us who exercise, meditate, play sports, hike and more such things. These are very common coping mechanisms which are bad and good.

There is another thing which we use as a coping mechanism which lies in between good and bad. Staying up at night till our brains are exhausted to think any further. The brain is numb we wont feel or think about anything, rather we cannot! 

On the internet there are lists of good and bad coping mechanisms. But today after the whole pandemic situation, staying up at night has become another coping mechanism which might not be listed in bad but for sure has a negative impact in the long term.

Not unless we are aware of our emotions, we understand how we deal with it subconsciously. Only when we are aware, we could change!

Sunday, 8 August 2021

Reality Check

 Don't we all like to be praised? 

Every time somebody praises us, we get the reassurance which we all like to get time to time. Seriously, I love it when people admire my articles, who doesn't? 

It feels wonderful to be around people that admire you. Positive encouragement is essential for growth but you know what else is essential? It is a Reality check. We tend to seek advice and support from people who would keep us in our comfort of thoughts. It is easy that way. 

Only when people are honest, they would tell you the truth and push you out of your comfort to think about other perspective. If people around you won't do that, they can't be your close-ones. Because are we not meant to help each other become better? 

Perhaps to console ourselves we build a story according to our needs but at some point the reality peeks and we have to make peace with it. Be open to people who you know would treat you with honesty. 

At first instinct I might not like when my article is not recieved well but I have my sister telling me I have to put in more efforts the next time. 

Last Sunday was friendship day, I have seen friends support one another in the wrong things just because they are friends. Why not instead choose the company who would always paint the real picture and help you get through it?

"Not everything is in our control, let us choose what we can"

Tuesday, 20 July 2021

Inside the brain of an overthinker

How are we really supposed to be sure about any life decisions we make?



There are always going to be options before you but those will all be your imagination, perhaps far way from the reality. A small step could change your life forever(if forever exists ;p ) 

Sometimes in the broader picture you miss out the tiny details, sometimes focusing on the tiny details you forget the broader picture. Are we curious animals or humans who tame their emotions? Till what extent is our desire to explore things right? 

How are we told we overthink and when we react to a situation told you never think enough? We should not jump to conclusions yet we should not build up the scenario in our heads. 

I believe being emotionally rich is better than being emotionless. I have absorbed every drop of every emotion and felt alive. It was not easy to validate my emotions myself when every time being asked to stop  overthinking and over reacting but I have the right to feel a certain way, everyone has. 

I might not be sure of the decisions I take but I for sure know what I want and what I need because, my overthinking brain has weighed everything and everyone. I am not an emotional coward anymore. 

Sunday, 13 June 2021

What am I? Ambivert, Introvert, Extrovert?

 Who am I?








I pass the years without knowing who am I.

I grow up without knowing who am I.


Hiding my tears and fears,

emotions and feelings,

scared to lose my precious thoughts,

I was an Introvert.


Trying to be like an ocean,

keeping the storm in my stomach,

it hurt more than ever,

the earth weighed on my shoulders,

everything gave me a shiver.


Added hate in hatred,

love in love struck,

made everything tit for tat

showed my emotions,

was an Extrovert.


Felt incomplete and shallow,

like a chameleon

changing color.

If everything were tit for tat,

what is the essence of me?


Broken trust and high self confidence

made me who I am.

I am there for everyone in need,

I am the warmth in a hug you will ever need,

I am an Ambivert.


I just understood, 

good-bad is different for the rest

At the end you should be truthful to

the heart beating in your chest.


"Knowing what you are,

will help you become whom you want to be."

                                                -rashmi

Sunday, 23 May 2021

Women power

Why don't we talk about women supporting women?

 We are better united.

This year on women's day I sent out all the amazing women I know a message which read, "May we grow together or apart and celebrate each others' success. Happy women's day!"  

My entire high-school there was a lot of drama. Somehow boys never had any drama. I have seen girls trying to pull down other girls. They are so jealous of each other, don't trust me? 


Take a look at this meme, there is some reality to it, right? This is just an example which is exaggerated but the truth remains how women are the ones weighing other women down mostly because of jealousy,

You know conditioning plays a huge part too. We are conditioned in a way where we are intimidated by someone who is different. Only a few would not be insecure and let a person be different. So many years of fitting in the norms of society, a woman little different scares the society. 
We all blame men for not supporting women, between you and me, how supportive are women towards each other? Why has it become so normal to bring a woman down than to rise to her standards? 
Stop blaming men for everything and support a fellow woman, even though you don't like her. It shall not be anything extra ordinary but sometimes a girl asking "are you fine?" to another is also being supportive. 
Only when we take a stand for right, it will change. Let us just be happy for each other. Don't bring her down, lift her up! We are better united.

PS- This is nothing against men or boys. Your support is appreciated too!

Sunday, 16 May 2021

The Truth!

 Really, what is it?

Is it a sunrise or a sunset?

Isn't this a common picture? So common yet, you are unsure whether it is a sunset or a sunrise. Let us say, even when we pick a side, the probability of being right is fifty percent. 

Now think about all the times we have argued knowing only fifty percent or less truth. Humans tend to have biases, it is natural. But when we use our assumptions to form prejudice, it gets risky.

So what happens? Being the generation who has internet access at tip of the finger and technology under feet, it takes us no time to share these biased opinions on social media. 

When these biased opinions instead of truth make way to different platforms, it creates a panic. Which is used against us by people who are smart. They are smart to ignite the fire and wear fire resistant bodysuits. On the other hand we are the people who are targeted and we are the ones exploited. 

So, shall we not share or express our opinions? We have the right to express ourselves I know. Right and duty are two sides of a coin. It is our duty to verify the news before making a statement, taking a stand, having prejudices and most importantly reacting to it. 

Believe it or not everyone of us has influence may it be on a four year old kid or forty year old adult. Let us use the accessibility of internet to find the truth and make everyone around us aware. let us try?

 It is a sunrise picture, or is it?

"Truth could be ugly but it brings awareness." 


Underneath the Table

In our childhood I think most of us have enjoyed the comfort of playing underneath the table. What was so comforting about it? Personally...